‘I cannot be in a long sleeve floor-length gown in the heat for 8 hours’: Mother-to-be stands up to an entitled bridezilla, refusing to abide by absurd dress code demands in order to protect her pregnancy

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    Font - Posted by u/throwawaythechanges 21 hours ago AITA for not going to my sister in laws wedding due to her dress code
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    Font - I 25f am having a conflict with my husbands sister 36f. She is getting married in 2 weeks and her dress code is incredibly complicated to adhere to for me. It is black tie, long sleeves and floor length gowns. The conflict happened because I am currently 34 weeks pregnant and overheat very quickly, and the wedding is
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    Font - entirely outside, in the middle of the day, in the southern USA where it is incredibly hot, I cannot be in a long sleeve floor length gown in the heat for 8 hours. I have sent her a few dresses to try to compromise which I will link in
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    Font - the comments for further information but she is completely adamant about exactly what she wants. I told her yesterday that I cannot attend her wedding if she is not going to budge even slightly on the dress code. I told her she has
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    Font - the right to have her wedding exactly how she wants it, for it to be her perfect day but I have the right to look out for my own health. She freaked out at me and told me I was being incredibly selfish and
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    Font - that "for once it isn't about me and my fing baby" which she only said because she's jealous I'm having the first grandchild and she felt like she should have had a baby before me and my husband.
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    Font - Since then my husbands side of the family has told me I'm being selfish and to just compromise one day to keep the peace. I don't think I should need to compromise my health for her wedding. Am I the a hole and being unreasonable? Edit: here are a few examples of the dresses I offered to wear
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    Font - 37 yellange 21 hr. ago NTA. Grabbing popcorn and waiting to see how many people actually adhere to said dress code. Please let us know.
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    Font - Apart Foundation1702 19 hr. ago Partassipant [2] We definitely do! Pregnant woman here! There is no way I would be able to adhere to her dress code. Today I just went outside in just a t-shirt and a jeggings in 84F heat and I was overheating and I wasn't out for
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    Font - 8 hrs. When your pregnant your temperature already higher than normal, without being forced to wear black tie attire. NTA tell the flying monkeys to go fly south for the winter. Also I don't see anything wrong with your choices of dresses.
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    Mammal - Duck__Holliday 19 hr. ago I would also like to know how many people will faint. Should be quite a show.
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    Font - speakeasy12345 · 19 hr. ago Partassipant [1] That was my first thought! Hope they have EMS on stand-by. Pretty sure a bunch of passed-out people and sirens from EMS is going to be way more distracting than 1 person wearing a short- sleeve dress. Especially when everyone is dripping in sweat.
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    Rectangle - Play-yaya-dingdong . 19 hr. ago Omg yes Dont get approval just show up Thats what most people will do I promise. Ew long sleeves in summer? Nope
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    Font - TinLizzy-1909 18 hr. ago I'm pretty sure there will be a lot of people that fudge the perfect dress code that the bride has in her mind. How bad will her melt down be?
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    Font - Cackles Baby 18 hr. ago Right! Is the bride going to stop the ceremony and kick out all the people who aren't the way she wants them to be dressed? And OP, the dress choices you sent are beautiful.
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    Font - Ok-Profession-9372 20 hr. ago NTA. Also you should mention to her that a black tie wedding traditionally happens after 5:30 PM. She should adjust her attire to garden party, which would be entirely appropriate.
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    Font - throwawaythechanges OP 20 hr. ago My husband has been incredibly supportive and has tried to shield me as much as possible, and has told his sister that he's not subject his wife and baby to that, he's been great. He's also told me he's not going to go
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    Font - and it's her wedding. Neither of us are in the party we're just guests. But also I've told her black tie isn't for a noon wedding in a field (which is where this wedding is)
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    Hand - "Long sleeves in the summer? Nope."

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